a balancing act

You might adore spending time with your grandchildren. Perhaps there are others in your life that you care for? Don’t forget to leave some time aside — just for you.

Raising a family is equally the most rewarding and demanding of all jobs. So once the kids have flown the nest to start their own brood, many people can pursue other interests or hobbies because their time is their own again, right?

Well, not quite: many grandparents find themselves taking up important caring roles for the youngest members of the family.

In fact, in a 2022 study by the Australian Institute of Family Studies, two in five grandparents with a grandchild aged under 13 years were providing some childcare¹.

Most often, they do it to support parents’ work. Grandparents’ desire to connect and build relationships with grandchildren and family was also fundamental to taking on childcare.

Providing childcare was typically a positive experience for grandparents (97% reported they enjoy it). Caring for grandchildren was seen to be centred on family relationships and connections. Even when childcare was reported to be tiring, some also found it energising.

Challenges with caring

Some grandparents who participated in the research reported on the challenges of providing childcare. Speaking up when requests for childcare were too demanding or too disruptive appeared be an important factor in protecting the wellbeing of grandparents who participated in the study.

Barriers to grandparent care were apparent across some domains: distance, breakdown in family relationships, child’s age, and personal barriers such as age, health, and having other caring or employment commitments.

However, there was strong disagreement that grandparents were resentful about being asked or expected to care for their grandchildren.

Others highlighted challenges or barriers to providing childcare. This included reference to grandparents' age, impacts of health, caring or work responsibilities, or difficulties managing more intensive care needs. For example:

Striking the right balance

Grandparent supervision is often regarded as the ‘next best thing’ to parental care. Parents value the closer intergenerational relationships, while the majority of grandparents derive great satisfaction from the role.

It provides a significant, free economic benefit which is not a burden on the government. “But sadly, many grandparents feel unrecognised despite the size of their in-kind economic contribution.”²
 

Grandparent wellbeing and childcare

The Grandparents and Childcare in Australia survey found 97% of grandparents reported they enjoy providing care, with 94% saying providing childcare increases their connectedness to family and adds meaning to their life.

According to the Australian parenting website raisingchildren.net.au, it’s important to balance your caring responsibilities with looking after yourself³.

As a grandparent, looking after yourself can give you the energy you need to raise the child in your care.

Looking after yourself involves:

• looking after your emotions, physical health and relationships
• taking time for yourself
• getting support
• being kind to yourself.

Raising Children also recommend making time for yourself. Even 15 minutes each day doing something you enjoy will help.

Here are some ideas:

• read a book or magazine, or check out a favourite website
• message or call a friend
• do a puzzle like Wordle or Sudoku
• do something creative like knitting or drawing
• weed the garden
• get up a bit earlier to have a cup of tea or coffee in peace
• watch a favourite TV show once the child is asleep

Try reminding yourself that you’ve earned it and remember: it doesn’t matter what you do with your time, as long as it’s something you enjoy.

¹ Baxter, J. (2022). Grandparents and childcare in Australia. (Families in Australia Survey report). Melbourne: Australian Institute of Family Studies. https://aifs.gov.au/sites/default/files/2022-07/Grandparents%20and%20child%20care%20in%20Australia_0.pdf. © Commonwealth of Australia 2022

² “Focus on grandparents as child carers,” 2 May 2024. Extracted 25 August 2025, https://nationalseniors.com.au/news/lifestyle/focus-on-grandparents-as-child-carers

³ Raisingchildren.net.au, “Grandparent carers and kinship carers: looking after yourself”, 31/12/2022. Extracted 27/6/2023, https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/grandparents/grandparent-kinship-carers/grandparent-kinship-carers-looking-after-yourself